A Bag of Doritos for a Broken Spirit

That is what went through my head over the weekend; and I thought to myself, “I stood silent when I could have said something.”

On Saturday, myself and the girls went to pickup some groceries at Wal-Mart along with 90% of those living in metro Atlanta. See, we had a “snow storm” brewing and the local news was prepping us for a potential 4-6 inches late Sunday night. You know what that means, right? Everyone scurries to their local grocer and buys 8 gallons of milk and 3 loaves of bread. Needless to say, the store was packed! We did our shopping and went to check out. That day, however, the lines were insane and we had to wait 25 minutes just to check out.

While waiting, there was a mother and son ahead of us. Right before we got in line apparently the little boy, maybe 8 yo, did something to anger his mother. The mother then proceeded to spend the next 20 minutes with her finger pointed at her son, explaining that he messed up and he wasn’t behaving like some of the other children waiting in line, even threatening to take his bag of Doritos away if he didn’t stop crying. Meanwhile the little boy was teary-eyed, his lip was quivering, and he was constantly shielding his face in embarrassment. What made me even more upset was that the boy couldn’t speak up for himself. He was using sign language and struggling to communicate his way through the situation. I didn’t know the entire story, but regardless, I was heartbroken for the kid. I wanted to speak up and say, “Child, you are worth it! You are important!” My heart ached for his spirit.

I was reminded that even in our sin, even in our depravity, Jesus advocates on our behalf. Even when we are unworthy to speak up for ourselves, he is on our side. He is above everything, knows everything, and accepts us nonetheless.

…we have an advocate with the Father—Jesus Christ, the Righteous One. (1 John 2:1)

In our moments of deepest exasperation as parents, do we choose to leverage the respect and diminish the honor of our children, for our own vengeance? It would be all too easy to look upon this woman with contempt and judgement, but to truly search our hearts in humility, and in light of  Christ’s sacrifice is a far more humbling thing. How am I affirming and encouraging my children’s spirit and character? How can I show them that I will stand up for them on their behalf? How do I advocate for them at such a young age? As leaders of our households, lets engage readily, act promptly, and advocate constantly.

In what ways have you stood up for your spouse/kids?

Photo credit: Chelsea Rose


  • Mary Cherry

    January 10, 2011

    Children must be educated and trained until they reach maturity. ~”When the mother is wise, then will the children be led into the path of wisdom. If the mother be religious she will show her children how they should love God. If the mother is moral she guides her little ones into the ways of uprightness.” Is not this a vital responsibility for the woman? Does she not require every possible advantage to equip her for such a task?
    Educating ourselves with the love of God, with the love of His Son; Jesus should be the first step?
    From time to time, I see the same in public places, or even among friends (even relatives) and… most of the time I don’t say anything… I feel upset, angry, desperate, impotent, sad…$%^&&* $##$@^@&&@*(@@))@)@

    • Dustin

      January 11, 2011

      thanks for stopping by mary!

  • Jim F

    January 11, 2011

    Excellent point! A lot of thought provoking questions. Thanks!

    • Dustin

      January 11, 2011

      Thanks, Jim. Hope it encouraged!

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